Giving and Receiving Feedback

One Community is founded on a desire for the clearest and most open communication possible. This page is about how to give feedback and a template of the giving and receiving feedback exercises we’ve done in our consensus trainings hosted by One Community consultants Dr. Connie Stomper and Jack Reed, author of The Next Evolution. Our goal is to maintain a culture of growth and improvement in all aspects of our existence and we encourage the use of the following Giving and Receiving Feedback Format as often as possible between all members of our team and the public.

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CONSCIOUS COMMUNICATION    ●    CONSENSUS TRAINING    ●    MONTHLY REVIEWS

STEPS TO GIVING AND RECEIVING FEEDBACK

Delivering Feedback Guidelines

  • ASK TO GIVE FEEDBACK
  • If yes, deliver your feedback using ownership language and an attitude of loving and caring
  • Include what you APPRECIATE about the person and a CHALLENGE you may be having in relating to them; may be constructive feedback, judgment, or feeling – as long as it is delivered using ownership language

Receiving Feedback Guidelines

  • “Thank you for the opportunity to accept your feedback”
  • Repeat back what you think the feedback is/was, including what was appreciated about you
  • Wait for clarification that what you repeated back was what the person giving feedback meant
  • If not correct, repeat back again as needed until your understanding of feedback is confirmed
  • Once in agreement on what was said, share how you can use this information moving forward

Points of Clarification

  • It is ok for a person to say that they are not ready to receive feedback when asked so long as a future opportunity is established for the feedback to be received
  • Person delivering feedback can correct the receiver but it should not become a dialogue
  • The person receiving feedback can ask clarifying questions but should not try and respond, justify or otherwise interact with the feedback – just receive
  • Person receiving feedback need not have to agree with the feedback given; they need only to receive it and share how they can use the information moving forward

community planet, its our planet, the future is in our hands, one communityWHERE THIS FORMAT CAME FROM

This model for giving and receiving constructive feedback came from consensus trainings done with our consultants Jack Reed and Dr. Connie Stomper and the Community Planet Foundation. We consider giving and receiving feedback training to be an essential part of the consensus trainings we host and of our culture because, in our opinion, the art of giving and receiving feedback graciously and effectively is foundational to operating with the consciousness of The Highest Good of All.

"In order to change an existing paradigm you do not struggle to try and change the problematic model.

You create a new model and make the old one obsolete. That, in essence, is the higher service to which we are all being called."
~ Buckminster Fuller ~